Your Age: 31-40
Length of Relationship : 1 - 2 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: Recently - less than 30 days
How did you learn about it?: A group text message sent from anonymous person. The group text included him and 7 other women besides myself basically saying to all meet since we were all sleeping with the same man. Then one of the women called me (it was stated in the message my number and that I was his girlfriend) then the next day another woman reached out to me and told me she actually had known about me.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: I was and still am hurt. I ask myself what I didn’t do or did do that made him do this even though he’s told me it was nothing I did or didn’t do. I feel like the whole past year has been a lie. Idk what to believe really anymore.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: Before I knew I had a feeling something was up just had no clue the extent of how bad it was. I was not eating my hair was falling out I couldn’t hardly sleep
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Reading as much as I can and trying to focus on myself
What are your next steps?: Finding a support group for myself and couples therapy with him.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply):Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Betrayed, Shame/Ashamed
What emotions are missing from the list?: Can’t think of any
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Be very careful with who you tell
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