submission thirty-seven (37)

Your Age: 31-40

Length of Relationship : 11 - 20 years

How long ago did the betrayal occur?: A little while ago - 3-6 months

How did you learn about it?: 

Looked through his phone after I felt something was off

Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: 

I felt devastated when I read them. I instantly threw up. I couldn’t believe what I was reading. I still feel that way from time to time when I think about it. I feel worried and feel the constant need to be reassured

How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: 

I lost 30 lbs within 2 months. I don’t eat normal now. Sleeping is getting better but when I worry to much I can’t sleep

What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: 

I really don’t have a method. I just try to reassure myself that it will all work out and that he is doing the right thing like he tell me he is. Most of the time I can calm down but the worrying never goes away

What are your next steps?: 

I feel like I may need to speak to a therapist about PTSD

What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply):Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Betrayed, Invisible

What emotions are missing from the list?:

What advice would you give to others in this situation?: 

That you need to trust your gut. And talk about your feeling with your partner

What else would you like to share?: Infidelity is one of the worst things to go through. Your whole sense of the world gets twisted. Trust is gone. Your self esteem is gone. Your relationship as it once was is gone.