Your Age: 31-40
Length of Relationship : 1 - 2 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: A little while ago - 3-6 months
How did you learn about it?:
His infidelity didn't involve another woman but it involved drugs and alcohol. So in a way the drugs were his other woman. And he always put the drugs first.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.:
I felt sick to my stomach. Nothing I did was ever enough.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?:
At the time I couldn't eat or sleep, I was angry and hurt..
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?:
I saw a psychologist. She was a good listener. And I had a couple of friends that were very supportive and also just listened.
What are your next steps?:
I have closure now. I had tried to get him to own up to the hell he put me through but he didn't remember any of it. And I realized it was because of all the drugs and alcohol. He was never really there. It was never really a real relationship. I was always present and sober. He was always high.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply):
Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Strong, Empowered, Voiceless, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Invisible, Shame/Ashamed, Relieved
What emotions are missing from the list?:
What advice would you give to others in this situation?:
Walk away immeadiatly from people who use drugs and alcohol on a daily basis.
What else would you like to share?: