submission thirty-nine (39)

Your Age: 41-50

Length of Relationship : 21 years or more

How long ago did the betrayal occur?: A little while ago - 3-6 months

How did you learn about it?: 

Went into her Facebook acct and looked up the search history

Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.:

 I’ve felt confusion and sadness every single day since I found out

How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: 

Changed a lot, still can’t get enough sleep and not eating like I used to

What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: 

Had a long talk with her the day she admitted it, we decided to stay together and work it out...is it working?? Not really because she is putting in all the effort but it’s me that I just can’t move on, I simply don’t trust her anymore

What are your next steps?: 

Marriage counseling

What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Invisible, Shame/Ashamed

What emotions are missing from the list?:

What advice would you give to others in this situation?: 

If you’re going to forgive and move on together make sure you really mean it

What else would you like to share?: