submission thirty-three (33)

Your Age: 31-40

Length of Relationship : 6 - 10 years

How long ago did the betrayal occur?: It's been a while - over a year ago

How did you learn about it?:

 She told me when I confronted her

Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: 

When I found out, I felt sick. Today (Over two years later) I thought I would be able to get over it, but I cannot.

How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: 

I have changed jobs, changed shifts, moved into a new home after selling our first home together.

What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?:

 I am uncomfortable taking to family about the situation. I have talked to a select few friends. She will not discuss it with me. "I need to get over it"

Obviously I'm here so it's not working for me

What are your next steps?:

 I think it's time to discuss divorce.

What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Betrayed, Devalued

What emotions are missing from the list?: Over it

What advice would you give to others in this situation?: 

If you have doubts about being able to move past what happened, and your unfaithful partner isn't willing to hear your concerns, bail out.

What else would you like to share?: 

I have been cheated on in the past by more than one partner. I let the first one back in and she did it again. I've been waiting "for the other shoe to drop" in this marriage. It's time to move on.