submission thirty-one (31)

Your Age: Under 20

Length of Relationship : Less than 1 year

How long ago did the betrayal occur?: Recently - less than 30 days

How did you learn about it?: I suspected so I put a GPS on his vehicle and got his credit card statements. When I got her name I went to her house and caught him there

Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: Its be just over a year. Obviously betrayed and depressed for a long time

How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: Yes both changed. Lost almost 50lbs and still wake up several times a night

What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: I just started seeing a social worker after the divorce. I bought a new house and have basically no contact with him

What are your next steps?: To try to trust people again.

What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Strong, Empowered, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued

What emotions are missing from the list?: None

What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Value yourself. Follow your instincts

What else would you like to share?: The person I trusted with my life, who I gave 5 beautiful, healthy kids too, whose life I put before my own could easily create a life of lies, secrecy and betrayal and yet see he did nothing wrong.