Your Age: 41-50
Length of Relationship : 6 - 10 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: It's been a while - over a year ago
How did you learn about it?: We had gone away for the weekend to a cabin. When we got back, I received screenshots from the affair partner telling me she felt I should know that he was “living a double life”.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: The past year and a half have been incredible difficult. Initially it was shock. He moved out of the house and then returned, only to leave again two months later. The roller coaster has made it very difficult to feel like I was moving forward.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: I lost 25 pounds in about 6 weeks last summer. Sleep and appetite are slowly getting back to normal.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Exercise, therapy, time with friends, focusing on raising my son. Is it working? Not every moment, no. But, I see slow improvements.
What are your next steps?: Divorce will be finalized by Jan 1, 2020. Looking forward to the next stage of the journey - healing.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Voiceless, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Shame/Ashamed, Relieved
What emotions are missing from the list?: Humbled. My reaction has not always been pretty or my proudest moments. Life has humbled me.
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: You will get through it, even if there are backslides.
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