Your Age: 51 +
Length of Relationship : 21 years or more
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: It's been a while - over a year ago
How did you learn about it?: Overheard phone conversation from nearby room, as spouse was telling a friend.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: Foolish for being duped by my trusted spouse since I could have been with someone else that wanted to be my spouse. When it happened I was and still am broken hearted.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: Sometimes I sleep less and other times I sleep too much. I overeat. I am now more involved with my religion and more prayerful. I spend more time out of my house to avoid my spouse.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Praying to God and it gives me peace.
What are your next steps?: Just waiting to be served a divorce document being filed by my spouse.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply):Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Replaced, Betrayed
What emotions are missing from the list?:Foolishness and now incapable of having affection for my spouse.
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Do what ever it takes to keep your spouse and children closer to God. Wondering if that would have made my spouse capable of feeling shame.
What else would you like to share?: I have for many years suspected my spouse is bi-polar , and now an alcoholic with cancer.And now my mother-in-law suffers from terminal A.L.S. which causes my spouse to be angry and hateful of me.