Your Age: 31-40
Length of Relationship : 3 - 5 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: A little while ago - 3-6 months
How did you learn about it?: He confessed but I was suspicious about his behaviour related to a drug relapse
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: Devastated. We’ve moved through it and are still together but there is a constant nagging sadness inside
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: I haven’t slept through the night in months
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: I’ve always used marijuana, which is legal where I live, but am definitely smoking more. I have also been smoking cigarettes again which I had quit for about three years prior. Drinking a bit more too.
What are your next steps?: We have now decided to seek counselling. It felt like we tried to just sweep it under the rug and move on until a big blow out over nothing led to it all flooding out again.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply):Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Betrayed, Shame/Ashamed
What emotions are missing from the list?:Confused
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Follow your gut and do what you believe is best for you
What else would you like to share?: Everyone thinks they know what they would do if they were cheated on but when you’re confronted with infidelity it’s never as black and white as you think it would be.