eighty-four (84)

Your Age: 41-50

Length of Relationship : 21 years or more

How long ago did the betrayal occur?: Recently - less than 30 days

How did you learn about it?: The first time my husband was so wasted he let some secrets out

Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: The first time I was in shock, confused, numb, emotional for several months

How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: This time around again I'm not sleeping well thinking about it

What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: I'm already on wellbutrin so that seems to help, plus I try and distract my mind

What are your next steps?: Divorce

What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Voiceless, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Invisible, Shame/Ashamed, Cornered/Forced

What emotions are missing from the list?:

What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Once a cheater always a cheater no matter what they say unless you have full access to all his or her accounts

What else would you like to share?: I feel like I can't talk to anyone about it and not be judged