Your Age: 41-50
Length of Relationship : 11 - 20 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: It's been a while - over a year ago
How did you learn about it?: My gut told me something was wrong for the longest time but I was brushing those feelings away. Maybe I wasn't ready.
In the end I put a listening app on his phone and heard him. Then phone bills revealed he's been cheating for a long time
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: Shaken, angry, sad, rejected, shocked. This was a month ago
Now I'm slowly figuring things out. Going to therapy (individual and couples) and trying to find some norm
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: Yes I've lost weight, sleep schedule is erratic
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Talking to my close friends who are like sisters. Spending time with my kids. Seeing my therapist and prayer. It's helping
What are your next steps?: Separated and going to therapy. Giving myself time to make the best decision for me
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Sadness, Betrayed, Devalued
What emotions are missing from the list?:
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Trust your gut always
What else would you like to share?: Are there any stories of couples who have stayed together and been successful?