submission twenty-four (24)

Your Age: 41-50

Length of Relationship : 6 - 10 years

How long ago did the betrayal occur?: In the last few months - less than 90 days (3 months)

How did you learn about it?: A out of area dinner charge on our credit card

Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.:

When I discovered her emotional affair with her coworker I was devistated. She said she didn't have sex. We have a good life and young children at home. She is sorry and wants to work it out. But trust is at the core of any marrige. I do understand a mistake but not a choice to break our vows and deceive me for months. She could have came to me at anytime to discuss her needs. So selfish.

How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: 

Eating a little less, sometimes hard to still sleep with her

What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?:

Researching why people cheat, etc. The info is eye opening. Not as much info on the wife cheating as opposed to husband.

What are your next steps?: 

Started counseling. Still trying to decide if this is the woman I want to grow old with. Continue to pray about it.

What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Strong, Betrayed, Shame/Ashamed

What emotions are missing from the list?:

What advice would you give to others in this situation?: 

Every situation and relationship is different, but defibately dont bury your feeling

What else would you like to share?: 

Seek a better understanding of God in your marriage/relationship