submission twelve (12)

Your Age: 31-40

Length of Relationship : 11 - 20 years

How long ago did the betrayal occur?: It's been a while - over a year ago

How did you learn about it?: 

I had to investigate and found more than I ever imagined

Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.:

 I feel like he will never fully be honest and it makes it very hard to start over

How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: 

I am finally almost back to normal with the occasional nightmare

What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: 

Lots of prayer and time for myself. I am not pushing myself to make any final decisions and am waiting and watching

What are your next steps?: 


What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): 

Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Strong, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Shame/Ashamed

What emotions are missing from the list?:

What advice would you give to others in this situation?: 

Do not make any hastey decisions and put yourself first. Take very good care of yourself and know that what you are feeling is normal and do not beat yourself up over it.

What else would you like to share?: 

I really am not sure if my husband has always liked and cheated or if he made a couple of very poor choices.