Your Age: 31-40
Length of Relationship : Less than 1 year
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: In the last few months - less than 90 days (3 months)
How did you learn about it?: Looked at partners phone. Saw Facebook messenger messages with her
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.:When I found out shock, devastation. Now- unloved, unattractive, unwanted, sad, depressed, hurt.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: Can’t eat much. Lost appetite
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: I’m not coping. I’m vaping when I didn’t used to.
What are your next steps?: Couples therapy. And if that fails, individual.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Sadness, Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Betrayed, Devalued
What emotions are missing from the list?: Empty
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Leave when you find out.
What else would you like to share?: I allowed him back in after I found out. It’s so much harder than moving on would have been