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Your Age: 31-40

Length of Relationship : 6 - 10 years

How long ago did the betrayal occur?: A while ago - 6-12 months

How did you learn about it?: I had the urge to check his phone and found messages

Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: I feel enraged, heartbroken, humiliated, unworthy, exhausted

How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: Not eating, not sleeping, rage, outbursts of crying, racing thoughts, chest pain,

What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?:Trying to lean in to my emotions and not suppress them

What are your next steps?: Therapy

What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Shame/Ashamed, Relieved

What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Find support

What else would you like to share?: I am so sorry to anyone feeling this way. All your emotions are valid. I love you and things will get better.