Your Age: 31-40
Length of Relationship : 11 - 20 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: Recently - less than 30 days
How did you learn about it?: I found a screenshot of a text on his ipad. He sent a picture of himself holding our newborn son to his girlfriend while I was sitting right next to him in a hospital bed. She replied “I’m even more in love with you now”.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.:Devastated that my best friend, partner, soul mate would do this to me especially when I was at my most vulnerable. It started when I first became pregnant and was very sick. He abandoned and betrayed me when I needed him most. My family was the most important thing to me in the whole world. Now I’m alone with a 2.5 yr, 2 month old, and brand new house we just custom built.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: I can barely stand to eat- Ive lost 7 pounds in the last week and a half. I didnt have much to spare to begin with. I’m not able to produce enough breastmilk for my baby because of the stress and pain. My body is shutting down.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?:When I found that first screenshot- i called and texted everyone I knew. I have many friends and family members checking on me, visiting, and bringing food. I still feel like I want to die. I still feel completely alone. Ive started therapy and have some medication but its not helping.
What are your next steps?: My “husband” wont talk to me. He wont tell me whats going on. The only explanation Ive received is that he “hasnt been in love with me for 10-11 months” (when i first got pregnant and was very very sick). He moved out of our house. I’ve emailed some lawyers. Im feel paralyzed.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Shame/Ashamed
What emotions are missing from the list?: Devastated, hopeless, abandoned
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