Your Age: 51 +
Length of Relationship : 21 years or more
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: Recently - less than 30 days
How did you learn about it?: It started 8 months ago. I was sensing something was off for a while. Last week he asked me if I was happy. That lead to my asking a lot of questions and finally got him to confess.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.:Betrayed, stupid, sad. My self esteem has taken a big hit. I'm exhausted, I can't think, I just want the pain to go away.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: I can't sleep. And when I do sleep, it's the first thing I think about. I can't do anything and I have absolutely no motivation to do anything.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?:Nothing yet. I'm trying to quiet my mind but I can't
What are your next steps?: Couples therapy. I don't know what else to do
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Betrayed, Devalued, Invisible, Shame/Ashamed
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What advice would you give to others in this situation?:
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