Your Age: 41-50
Length of Relationship : 21 years or more
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: It's been a while - over a year ago
How did you learn about it?: Messages in his phone.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: How I feel now is not constant it changes,sometimes I feel angry,sad,contempt,disgusting and rarely hopeful.
When I found out I felt like someone punched me in the stomach,I was nauseous,shocked and shaking.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: I developed insomnia, I tend to overeat or not eat all day it fluctuates.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: I started drinking and smoking over the age of 40.It works someday cause it makes me feel numb.
What are your next steps?: Getting a job and divorce.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply):Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Afraid, Voiceless, Replaced, Betrayed, Invisible, Shame/Ashamed
What emotions are missing from the list?: Contempt,suicidal,homicidal,traumatized
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Walk away if you can at the 1st betrayal it can only get worse,people.dont change.
What else would you like to share?: The pain feels like death, I have been grieving since the day I found out.Its a loss, a deep deep loss like something has ripped your heart out.