Your Age: 51 +
Length of Relationship : 21 years or more
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: It's been a while - over a year ago
How did you learn about it?: I received a text meant for “her” not me. It was about me being on my way home so it was obviously not for me.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: I’m divorced now, I stayed for 4 yrs fighting for my marriage. Still feel cheated out of memories, like they stole my families memories and stole 10yrs of my life, they could have set me free and did not. I didn’t have any choices not being in the know.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: Poor eating habits, drinking too much, not exercising enough.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: I’ve gone on trips, have dated, spent time w family and friends. Yes it helps but I continue to carry the anger of feeling like part of my life was stolen from me.
What are your next steps?: Continue to put one foot in front of the other, allow myself to trust again, keep trying to let go of what I can’t change.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply):Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Strong, Empowered, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Shame/Ashamed, Relieved
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What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Be thePer
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