Your Age: 51 +
Length of Relationship : 21 years or more
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: Recently - less than 30 days
How did you learn about it?: I found a phone number in my car. I google the number and it was a prostitute.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: I felt hurt, betrayed, and disgusted.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: I feel like something's missing on the inside of me. Every now and then I tear up and feel a great loss.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Finding infidelity groups to vent. And it is working so far. But it's only been two days.
What are your next steps?: To keep busy. Focus on working and going back to school.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Sadness, Alone, Betrayed, Devalued, Shame/Ashamed, Relieved
What emotions are missing from the list?:None
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: My advise would be to not be bitterly angry. Grieve the loss of the relationship then move on.
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