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Your Age: 51 +

Length of Relationship : 21 years or more

How long ago did the betrayal occur?: It's been a while - over a year ago

How did you learn about it?: Saw pictures and texts on partner’s phone

Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: Shellshocked, hurt, angry

How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: Couldn’t sleep

What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Journaling. Yes

What are your next steps?: Divorce, looking after myself

What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Strong, Betrayed, Devalued, Shame/Ashamed, Relieved

What emotions are missing from the list?: Uncertainty

What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Give it time. Be kind to yourself. Go through the emotions, don’t try to avoid it

What else would you like to share?: It made me stronger and more compassionate