Your Age: 41-50
Length of Relationship : 11 - 20 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: It's been a while - over a year ago
How did you learn about it?: We were going through a difficult time and I noticed odd behaviour, I checked his work emails and to my disbelief found proof .
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: Completely and utterly betrayed. Hurt and angry beyond belief.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: I don't sleep anymore, it's been difficult to keep focus.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: I am seeing a therapist but it's not as easy when you have additional issues as well.
What are your next steps?: Getting back on track to be strong for my children.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Voiceless, Betrayed, Devalued, Shame/Ashamed
What emotions are missing from the list?: All are listed
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: It's never easy and there's no way to tell when and how it happens. Make sure you have a supportive structure.
What else would you like to share?: Always be true to yourself no matter how hard it is.