Your Age: 41-50
Length of Relationship : 11 - 20 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: It's been a while - over a year ago
How did you learn about it?: I just found out last month when my husband told me by giving me a letter he wrote confessing to it months after he ended it ( 1.5 years after he ended it)
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: Completely devastated and shattered. I have been depressed, numb, anxious, angry and completely heartbroken.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: Yes all of my normal habits have changed
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Therapy, talking with my husband, articles, books and podcasts
What are your next steps?: Continue individual therapy and go to couples counseling. Work on healing and improving myself
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Betrayed, Devalued
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What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Stick to what you think is right for you and your family and do not let anyone make you feel bad about the decision you choose. Work on yourself and putting yourself first and making you the top priority . Love yourself because this is not your fault!
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