Your Age: 31-40
Length of Relationship : 11 - 20 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: Recently - less than 30 days
How did you learn about it?: My wife’s phone pinged up in a local hotel whilst she was out for a quiet “walk” I went to the hotel and confronted her, she was in a room with a man we know. The husband of a close friend of hers
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: When I found out Shattered, shocked, angry, broken, in denial. Sick.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: Yes not eating or sleeping right
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Reading articles and books. Shared with parents. Moved out for space. Spoken to a close friend. Speaking to my wife, spending time with my kids.
What are your next steps?: We have enraged a marriage counsellor and have started sessions
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Betrayed, Shame/Ashamed
What emotions are missing from the list?: None
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: I’m not sure it’s still so raw for me. Seek support, take time time to get over the initial shock and get perspective. Then ask yourself why did this happen how did you both end up in this situation. Get professional help.
What else would you like to share?: This is the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through but I still
Love my wife can we still have a bright future and get through this. Is this the wake up call I needed to rescue our marriage. Why didn’t I see how bad things had gotten even when she did repeatedly told me.
I feel complicit in this, did I drive her to do this?