Your Age: 51 +
Length of Relationship : 3 - 5 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: A little while ago - 3-6 months
How did you learn about it?: I’m not really sure if d there was infidelity. There was a lot of picking fights and verbal abuse I said I would not put up with and asked him to leave. He would for a few days and then return very charming and relaxed saying it was my fault for kicking him out of my life.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: He became full of rage by the time I decided to leave the relationship. It’s been six months and I’m still exhausted from trying to figure out this and that and what if any part I played in the dynamics of getting abused.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: I make myself eat. I pray and fast. I sleep well occasionally.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: I’m not doing very well at self care right now. I actually try to find someone else to encourage. I know to meditate, read something healthy, hot baths, exercise, minimize caffeine and sugar.
What are your next steps?: Somehow revive myself and pray I find myself again.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply):Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Strong, Empowered, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Invisible, Shame/Ashamed, Cornered/Forced, Relieved
What emotions are missing from the list?:Despair and hope less
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