Your Age: 21-30
Length of Relationship : 1 - 2 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: It's been a while - over a year ago
How did you learn about it?: I kept sending him text messages and emails thinking he probably lost his phone... because I didn't think he was no longer with me so I contacted his colleague who then said I should leave him alone I don't need him that's when I learnt he knew I was trying to reach him and he didn't bother to return any of my calls,messages and emails
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: It felt unreal and extremely painfull because I did not expect him to just leave me with no explanation...and the fact that he said he would not cheat and leave me for someone else and I believed him
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: I couldn't eat well at the time and I struggled to sleep
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Well I allowed myself to feel the pain and some days it felt like I was gonna die it was extremely painful and I used to read a lot self help books to try to numb the pain so.... but eventually the pain went away
What are your next steps?: I should go for therapy even though it's been two years because whenever I experience something bad in my life my mind always goes back to that moment when I was in pain.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Shame/Ashamed
What emotions are missing from the list?: None
What advice would you give to others in this situation?:Allow yourself to feel the pain so that you can get to the other side and be patient with yourself the pain may take longer than you expect so love yourself and stop asking yourself questions like what did I do? If s/he left without saying goodbye then in most cases its not about you
What else would you like to share?: That it's painful and be patient with yourself