Your Age: 41-50
Length of Relationship : 21 years or more
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: It's been a while - over a year ago
How did you learn about it?: Saw a text on his phone
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: Still horrified. I didn't even think about an affair, thought it was a drug dealer
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: EVERYTHING has changed. I am a shell of who I used to be
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Therapy, recognizing that infidelity is abuse
What are your next steps?: Leaving the cheater
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Voiceless, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Invisible, Shame/Ashamed, Cornered/Forced
What emotions are missing from the list?: Hurt
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Leave. They are horrible and will never change
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