Your Age: 31-40
Length of Relationship : 11 - 20 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: A little while ago - 3-6 months
How did you learn about it?: He sent me a text message that was meant for her, once confronted, he confessed. The affair had been going on for a year and a half. He told her he loved her. He claims to me that he never meant it and he only acted in ways that would get him more attention from her. Its difficult to know if he is lying and if he really did love her. They worked together and she is much older than me and married as well. I am 32, she was 47. They would meet up and have sex in the car in parking lots, or would get hotels when I would be out of town. He even called in sick and booked vacation days while he was supposed to be working night shifts, and they would get a hotel together. I got a hold of his old cell bills recently and some months they would send up to 900 text messages per day! Its a lot to swallow, and a lot to try to work past. We have two young (ish) children.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: Sad, betrayed, mad, angry, hurt, heartbroken, worthless, unimportant, unloved
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: back to eating and sleeping normal now but immediately after could not eat or sleep
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: therapy, reading blogs
What are your next steps?: Trying to work it out but it is difficult.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Shame/Ashamed
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What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Look after yourself!
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