Your Age: 41-50
Length of Relationship : 1 - 2 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: In the last few months - less than 90 days (3 months)
How did you learn about it?: He created a profile on OKCupid and ironically sent a message to a friend of mines.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: I was hurt. We had just celebrated our one year anniversary. I thought everything was going great with us.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: The day after everything happened and I confronted him I was so messed up that I couldn’t even go to work. I cried and stayed in the bed all day.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: I started journaling. I can’t really talk to my friends because they don’t understand why I miss him. It helps sometimes. Others it makes me emotional.
What are your next steps?: I feel stuck as I don’t know what to do.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Anger, Sadness, Alone, Replaced, Betrayed
What emotions are missing from the list?:
What advice would you give to others in this situation?: Don’t rush anything. Take all the time you need to heal
What else would you like to share?: I’ve started praying more and I think it will get better.