Your Age: 41-50
Length of Relationship : 11 - 20 years
How long ago did the betrayal occur?: A while ago - 6-12 months
How did you learn about it?:
My 5 year old son.
Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.:
Stunned, shocked, heartbroken, broken.
How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: More drinking, excercise, ruminations.
What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?:
Excercise, therapy, social support, distraction, drinking.
What are your next steps?:
Trying to let go of anger. Wishing he would die.
What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply):
Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Voiceless, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Invisible, Shame/Ashamed, Cornered/Forced
What emotions are missing from the list?:
All the positive ones.
What advice would you give to others in this situation?:
Everyone says time heals. I am not so sure that is sufficient.
What else would you like to share?: The power of the anger inside me astonishes and is unlike any emotion I have ever experienced.