submission one (1)

Your Age: 31-40

Length of Relationship : 6 - 10 years

How long ago did the betrayal occur?: It's been a while - over a year ago

How did you learn about it?: 

Saw some Whatsapp messages of naked women in his phone

Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out: 

Betrayed, abandoned & mainly really stupid. He had a drink problem for at least 2 years, recently found out about the coke problem (when he’d cleared out our bank account) and then to find out he’d been sexting hundreds of women was the final nail in the coffin.
Seeing it written down here makes me realise what a fool I have bern

How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?: 

Not sleeping without tablets. Not really eating. Drinking a whole bunch through the festive period and started smoking agsin

What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: 

Thank god I started therapy before I knew the whole situation. That and close family/friends. Stops me from going over the edge. I hope.

What are your next steps?: 

No fecking idea, but opening a new bank account was a good first step.

What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): 

Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Alone, Afraid, Voiceless, Replaced, Betrayed, Devalued, Invisible

What emotions are missing from the list?: 

Despairing

What advice would you give to others in this situation?: 

Really, we all know that once they have cheated, you can never go bavk

What else would you like to share?: 

Sending hugs to anyone else going through this