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Your Age: 41-50

Length of Relationship : 21 years or more

How long ago did the betrayal occur?: It's been a while - over a year ago

How did you learn about it?: Caught him out on his emails

Describe how you are feeling now, or how you felt when you found out.: Devastated feeling I thought I knew him but clearly don’t and in disbelief he was capable of doing this

How have your normal habits changed (eating, sleeping, etc)?:Emotional, can’t cope with stress, tearful

What are you using to cope with your emotions? Is it working for you?: Try to ignore it has happened, not really

What are your next steps?: Just living each day and hope it gets easier in time

What emotions have come up for you as you've been going through this? (select all that apply): Shock/Disbelif, Anger, Sadness, Betrayed, Devalued, Shame/Ashamed

What emotions are missing from the list?: Weakness, embarrassing

What advice would you give to others in this situation?: I have no advice as each person has to manage this their own wsy

What else would you like to share?: Would love to know others that have got past this